Every Baldur's Gate 3 romance option: who you can pursue

There are several Baldur's Gate 3 romance options to explore if you're jumping into the new D&D-based roleplaying game. Like so many other RPGs, sealing a romantic relationship with one of your companions will involve chatting them up, assisting in their personal side quests, and cueing a spicy scene back at camp if you so choose. And things do get spicy, as we've learned with Halsin's bear form scene.

Larian has said that romance in Baldur's Gate 3 isn't as simple as just doing a quest and getting the romance scene, though. Your party members have an approval system and will have opinions on the choices and allies you make. Approval seems to be the only limiting factor in companion romances—no rival-mances here, Dragon Age 2 fans. Baldur's Gate 3 romances are not gender-locked either. We don't know yet whether playing as The Dark Urge (the violent intrusive thought generator) will impact romance scenes or not, but that's also worth considering when you go through character creation.

What about co-op romance? You can still romance your party members while playing co-op Baldur's Gate 3 (and hide your intimate encounters if you want). The catch is that players can't romance each other, so if you and your pals all roll an oprigin character on a save file that's going to limit your pool of lovers.

We'll walk through each of your romanceable companions, what kind of relationship you can have with them, and how to gain their approval down below. Check out our Baldur's Gate 3 companions guide for more detail on each character's class and where to recruit them.

Shadowheart romance

• Likes: Deception and persuasion, worshippers of Shar
• Dislikes: Cruelty, siding with the Gith, devotees of Selûne

As a Cleric, Shadowheart's first devotion is to her deity Shar. You can make a case for a close second place in her heart though. Shadowheart's romance is a little more slow burn than some of your other companions, beginning with a shared bottle of wine and a kiss on the night of the Tiefling party during Act 1 at your camp. 

Shadowheart's relationship develops further as you venture into Act 2, particularly as you begin uncovering questlines related to her deity Shar. Remember not to pry too much into Shadowheart's past before she's ready, as keeping her vow of secrecy and her mission regarding the artifact she carries are both important to her.

Astarion romance

• Likes: Supporting his whims, siding with monsters, murder
• Dislikes: Altruism

Astarion isn't a nice guy, he's a vampire, and mostly concerned with his own interests. He is down for some extracurriculars at camp though and is rather flirtatious whether you engage with his offers or not. He's all vanity and compliment fishing initially, but Astarion does have a (literally) tortured backstory. Astarion really opens up later on if you maintain a close relationship with him, divulging a lot of the internal wounds he carries about intimacy and his looks. Can you fix him? You can definitely try.

Wyll romance

• Likes: Strength, bravery, kindness
• Dislikes: Cruelty, siding with devils and goblins

Resident warlock and monster hunter Wyll is known also as the Blade of the Frontiers, a title that inspires more than one salacious pun if you choose to get close to him. Good guy vibes aside, Wyll has a pact with his half-devil patron, which certainly affects who he approves of you lending support to. The cambion Mizora still calls out to him and early on in his romance her presence does come between you during intimate moments.

Unlike some other companions who are ready to celebrate a night together after saving the Emerald Grove, Wyll is more reticent and hides away from the group. You can share a first kiss, but getting closer comes later.

Gale romance

• Likes: Kindness, magic use, intelligence
• Dislikes: Cruelty, violence, lack of intelligence

As Gale says of himself, he's not coy. You have a chance to do a sort of mage's mind meld with him early on, a "romantic moment" he harkens back to when soliciting your company the night after saving the Emerald Grove. He's a charmer alright, citing romantic literature before your night together and spilling his backstory immediately after. If you can maintain a soft spot for him despite the several complications he divulges, Gale is very ready to brave his future "side by side" right after your first night together.

Check our full Gale romance guide for more details on how to begin your enchanting relationship with a wizard.

Lae'zel romance

• Likes: Strength, violence, siding with the Gith
• Dislikes: Weakness and avoiding violence, siding with Shadowheart or against the Gith 

Your githyanki party member presents a whiplash romance, initially. She's not exactly a warm companion up to the point but then propositions you with a rather direct, "I smell your sweat. I mean to taste it." If you accept, she plans to take you for her own. Lae'zel is dominant and full of passion, but don't get attached. At least initially, she says that she may want to bed you again but your bond isn't any deeper than that, even as a fellow githyanki.

Karlach romance

• Likes: Compassion, honesty, heroism, and straightforwardness
• Dislikes: Cruelty, lying, siding with devils or evil

Karlach may be a Tiefling but romancing her is pretty adorable. She's the gold heart of the party, despite the fact that her heart is literally a flaming infernal engine. Naturally you'll need to begin by recruiting her instead of fighting her as Wyll requests when you first meet. After that, you'll snag an approval boost by fighting the Paladins who've been chasing her down. Karlach will express her feelings for you after you save the Emerald Grove, as most of the others do. But with her flaming skin she can't agree to any physical intimacy, as much as she expresses she'd like to. To carry on with Karlach's personal quest and relationship, you'll need to start hunting down infernal iron to repair the overheated engine in her chest.

Check our full Karlach romance guide for details on how to cool her down.

Halsin romance

• Likes: Good, harmony, siding with the tieflings and druids
• Dislikes: Cruelty, destruction of nature

Flirty from the start, Halsin requires some patience since you can't really get him properly as a companion until a ways in the game. Once you do, he's into you from the start as being flirty is in his nature.

And in case there was any doubt, your new druid party member is the instigator of the already infamous bear love scene. Please turn your attention here, monster romance readers, because a heart-of-gold guy who's jacked but gentle, promising to hold back his beastly qualities no matter how badly he wants to devour you is right outta your playbook. And if you are into being devoured by a bear, you can opt your adventurous heart right into that part.

Minthara romance

You can in fact recruit and romance Minthara, one of the leaders of the goblin camp in Act 1. Be warned, recruiting her and siding with the goblins will force some other more good-aligned party members to leave you. If you want to be the evil power couple, you've got to seriously commit to the bit. For more details on getting her approval, check out our explain on whether you should save The Grove. If you're down bad for Drow, your reward is a rather spicy sex scene back at camp.

One-night stands

Some of these romances are a little more spoilery, so I've put them in their own section. These are side characters that you can have a one-time romance with or characters you can pay at Sharess' Caress brothel.

The Drow twins

When you arrive at Sharess' Caress brothel on the Wyvern Crossing in act 3, you'll likely meet the Drow twins; Nym Orlith and her brother, Sorn. You can hire each of them individually for 500 gold, or if you have a partner you're romancing, you can hire them both. Since these scenes take place in the Underdark room, they are described, so there aren't actually any visual sex scenes for these characters.

Naoise Nallinto

To romance this Dryad at Sharess' Caress, you first have to get rid of her other client, rather forcefully. If you break into the Nymph's Grotto room on the upper floor, the woman Naoise is with, Fist Jara, will transform into a Mind Flayer. Kill the creature and Naoise will offer a slightly unconventional experience for which you'll receive a special blessing until your next long rest. 

Mizora

You know that devil that's keeping Wyll's soul captive? Yeah, you can romance her. During act three, you'll have to make a significant choice relating to Wyll's contract, but after it, Mizora will stick around in your camp, and will proposition you before too long. If there was such a thing as an evil romance option, this would be it, as you indulge in hellish pleasures at the expense of tortured souls. As you'd imagine, Wyll is also extremely unhappy with this turn of events and finds you the next morning.

The Guardian

You can even romance the Guardian character who keeps appearing in your dreams and lives inside the artefact protecting you from the Absolute. This won't be possible until act three onwards, and this romance is better if you do it yourself. However, I will say that one of the key things you need to do is go to the basement of the Elfsong Tavern in the Lower City of Baldur's Gate.

Haarlep

If you've got the hots for the deal-making devil, Raphael, then you can have a steamy encounter with his companion lookalike, Haarlep, if he spots you in Raphael's bedroom when you visit the House of Hope in Act 3. Raphael only has sex with demons that look like himself, which says an awful lot about his character, but you should still be a tad wary about sleeping with Haarlep considering he's an incubus. Use protection, maybe.