How to romance Sebastian in Stardew Valley

Sebastian in Stardew Valley is an appealing bachelor to anyone looking for a little more edge on the farmyard. His emo hair and motorcycle are bound to win the heart of any My Chemical Romance fan, but he can be a tricky character to get ahold of due to how much time he spends in his parents' basement. 

Sebastian lives to the north of Pelican Town and is quite happy to sit indoors and spend his time with games, books, and comics rather than people. If he does leave his house it tends to be later in the day to sneak out for a cigarette or to slink away to band practice. But, these are some of the best opportunities to shower him with gifts.

Either way, you'll want to know how to build your relationship with Sebastian in Stardew Valley, whether that's for marriage or just a good friendship. After all, who could resist his brooding charm? You can change him, you can be the one to fill his dark soul with light. So, here's his full schedule, all his heart events, and the gifts he likes the most so you can track him down and force some friendship into his life.

When does Sebastian leave his room in Stardew Valley?

In spring and summer, Sebastian always leaves around 6:30 PM to have a lakeside smoke which is your best chance at giving him gifts and setting the foundations of your friendship. He also leaves his room at 3 PM for a brief 40 minutes to go to the kitchen in these two seasons as well. 

Once you've hit at least two hearts with him, you'll be able to go into his bedroom so you won't have to wait around for him to leave before you can chat. This can easily be achieved if you're cornering him each week to give him two gifts throughout spring and summer. But, if you find yourself going into autumn without any access to his room your best bet is waiting around his house at 12 PM when he'd usually visit the lake. If you want a more in-depth look at his routine, we've got his whole schedule broken down too. 

Stardew Valley Sebastian schedule

At the start of your friendship with Sebastian, he's quite a challenging character to get ahold of. He spends a significant amount of time inside at his computer, but since you can't get into his room until you've got at least two hearts with him, this can result in a lot of waiting.  Luckily he leaves pretty frequently in the evening to smoke, which is your best chance to find him at the start of your relationship. 

We've broken down his whereabouts every day of the week and throughout every season so you know exactly where to find him, and your best chance at giving him gifts. It's important to note though that in the event of a green rain day in summer, Sebastian will spend the whole day in his room. 

Spring

Monday

• 3pm: Leaves his room and goes to the kitchen
• 3:40pm: Leaves the kitchen and goes back to his room
• 6:30pm: Heads to the lake to the east of his house to smoke
• 7:30pm: Arrives at the lake and smokes
• 9:30pm: Heads back home

Tuesday

• 3pm: Leaves his room and goes to the kitchen
• 3:40pm: Leaves the kitchen and goes back to his room
• 6:30pm: Head to the lake to the east of his house to smoke
• 7:30pm: Arrives at the lake and smokes
• 9:30pm: Heads back home

Wednesday

• 3pm: Leaves his room and goes to the kitchen
• 3:40pm: Leaves the kitchen and goes back to his room
• 6:30pm: Head to the lake to the east of his house to smoke
• 7:30pm: Arrives at the lake and smokes
• 9:30pm: Heads back home

Thursday (1st Year)

• 3pm: Leaves his room and goes to the kitchen
• 3:40pm: Leaves the kitchen and goes back to his room
• 6:30pm: Head to the lake to the east of his house to smoke
• 7:30pm: Arrives at the lake and smokes
• 9:30pm: Heads back home

(All following years)

• 2pm: Leaves his house to smoke by the train station
• 3pm: Stands by the train station and smokes/broods
• 6:20pm: Moves to the east of the train station by the tunnel
• 8:10pm: Moves to the west of the train station by the tunnel
• 9:30pm: Returns home
• 10:20pm: Arrives home

Friday

• 3pm: Heads to the saloon
• 5:20pm: Plays pool with Sam in the saloon
• 9:10pm: Returns home
• 11:10pm: Arrives home 

Saturday

• 9am: Leaves his house to go to Sam’s house
• 11:30am: Arrives in front of Haley and Emily’s house with Sam
• 12:30pm: Makes his way to Sam’s room
• 1pm: Chills out in Sam’s room
• 6pm: Goes with Sam to the river to smoke
• 6:20pm: Smokes by the river outside Sam’s house with Sam
• 7:30pm: Makes his way home from Sam’s house
• 9:40pm: Gets home

Sunday

• 3pm: Leaves his room and goes to the kitchen
• 3:40pm: Leaves the kitchen and goes back to his room
• 6:30pm: Head to the lake to the east of his house to smoke
• 7:30pm: Arrives at the lake and smokes
• 9:30pm: Heads back home

Summer

Monday

• 3pm: Leaves his room and goes to the kitchen
• 3:40pm: Leaves the kitchen and goes back to his room
• 6:30pm: Head to the lake to the east of his house to smoke
• 7:30pm: Arrives at the lake and smokes
• 9:30pm: Heads back home

Tuesday

• 3pm: Leaves his room and goes to the kitchen
• 3:40pm: Leaves the kitchen and goes back to his room
• 6:30pm: Head to the lake to the east of his house to smoke
• 7:30pm: Arrives at the lake and smokes
• 9:30pm: Heads back home

Wednesday

• 3pm: Leaves his room and goes to the kitchen
• 3:40pm: Leaves the kitchen and goes back to his room
• 6:30pm: Head to the lake to the east of his house to smoke
• 7:30pm: Arrives at the lake and smokes
• 9:30pm: Heads back home

Thursday

• 2pm: Leaves his house to go smoke by the train station
• 3pm: Stands by the train station and smokes/broods
• 6:20pm: Moves to the east of the train station by the tunnel
• 8:10pm: Moves to the west of the train station by the tunnel
• 9:30pm: Returns home
• 10:20pm: Arrives home

Friday

• 3pm: Heads to the saloon
• 5:20pm: Plays pool with Sam in the saloon
• 9:10pm: Returns home
• 11:10pm: Gets home

Saturday

• 9am: Leaves his house to go to Sam’s house
• 11:30am: Arrives in front of Haley and Emily’s house with Sam
• 12:30pm: Makes his way to Sam’s room
• 1pm: Chills out in Sam’s room
• 6pm: Goes with Sam to the river to smoke
• 6:20pm: Smokes by the river outside Sam’s house
• 7:30pm: Returns home from Sam’s house
• 9:40pm: Gets home

Sunday

• 3pm: Leaves his room and goes to the kitchen
• 3:40pm: Leaves the kitchen and goes back to his room
• 6:30pm: Head to the lake to the east of his house to smoke
• 7:30pm: Arrives at the lake and smokes
• 9:30pm: Heads back home

Autumn

Monday

• 12pm: Leaves home and goes to the lake next to his house
• 4pm: Heads home 

Tuesday

• 12pm: Leaves home and goes to the lake next to his house
• 4pm: Heads home 

Wednesday

• 12pm: Leaves home and goes to the lake next to his house
• 4pm: Heads home 

Friday

• 3pm: Heads to the saloon
• 5:20pm: Plays pool with Sam in the saloon
• 9:10pm: Returns home
• 11:10pm: Gets home 

Saturday

• 9am: Leaves his house to go to Sam’s house
• 11:30am: Arrives in front of Haley and Emily’s house with Sam
• 12:30pm: Makes his way to Sam’s room
• 1pm: Chills out in Sam’s room
• 6pm: Goes with Sam to the river to smoke
• 6:20pm: Smokes by the river outside Sam’s house with Sam
• 7:30pm: Returns home from Sam’s house
• 9:40pm: Gets home

Sunday

• 12pm: Leaves home and goes to the lake next to his house
• 4pm: Heads home 

Winter

Monday

• 3pm: Leaves his room and goes to the kitchen
• 3:40pm: Leaves the kitchen and goes back to his room
• 6:30pm: Head to the lake to the east of his house to smoke
• 7:30pm: Arrives at the lake and smokes
• 9:30pm: Heads back home

Tuesday

• 3pm: Leaves his room and goes to the kitchen
• 3:40pm: Leaves the kitchen and goes back to his room
• 6:30pm: Head to the lake to the east of his house to smoke
• 7:30pm: Arrives at the lake and smokes
• 9:30pm: Heads back home

Wednesday

• 3pm: Leaves his room and goes to the kitchen
• 3:40pm: Leaves the kitchen and goes back to his room
• 6:30pm: Head to the lake to the east of his house to smoke
• 7:30pm: Arrives at the lake and smokes
• 9:30pm: Heads home

Thursday

• 2pm: Leaves his house to smoke by the train station
• 3pm: Stands by the train station and smokes/broods
• 6pm: Moves to the east of the train station by the tunnel
• 7:30pm: Moves to the west of the train station by the tunnel
• 9:30pm: Returns home
• 10:20pm: Arrives home

Friday

• 3pm: Heads to the saloon
• 5:20pm: Plays pool with Sam in the saloon
• 9:10pm: Makes his way home
• 11:10pm: Gets home 

Saturday

• 9am: Leaves his house to go to Sam’s house
• 11:30am: Arrives in front of Haley and Emily’s house with Sam
• 12:30pm: Makes his way to Sam’s room
• 1pm: Chills out in Sam’s room
• 6pm: Goes with Sam to the river to smoke
• 6:20pm: Smokes by the river outside Sam’s house with Sam
• 7:30pm: Makes his way home from Sam’s house
• 9:40pm: Gets home

Sunday

• 3pm: Leaves his room and goes to the kitchen
• 3:40pm: Leaves the kitchen and goes back to his room
• 6:30pm: Head to the lake to the east of his house to smoke
• 7:30pm: Arrives at the lake and smokes
• 9:30pm: Heads back home

Stardew Valley Sebastian gifts

Giving gifts is your gateway to boosting the amount of hearts you have with a character, but knowing what to give each character for the best return is hard given how many items there are in Pelican Town. We've found all of Sebastian's loves and likes so you'll know what will have the best response and benefit your relationship most. 

Sebastian loves the following items:

• Frozen tear
• Frog egg
• Obsidian
• Void egg
• Sashimi
• Pumpkin soup

His list of likes is a bit smaller, as it only includes flounder, quartz, the monster compendium and combat quarterly. But, if you're stuck for what to give him he won't turn his nose up at them, and every little helps when you're trying to develop a relationship.

Most other items will annoy him instead of helping you out, so it’s best to stick with the tried and tested items above, rather than attempting to expand his horizons. The last thing you want as a result of your kindness is him getting annoyed at you. 

Stardew Valley Sebastian heart events

When you start building your relationship and gaining hearts with your partner, certain milestones will result in heart events. These can only be triggered in certain areas of the map, so you need to make sure that you're in the right place if you want to see them play out. For Sebastian, you can expect the following heart events to take place. 

• 2: Head to Sebastian's room while he’s there and you’ll get to chat about his work (he’s a programmer). The event continues and he gets annoyed because nobody takes his job seriously.
• 4: Head to the mountain between 11am and 5pm to find Sebastian working on a motorcycle. He asks if you’d like to go on a ride at some point and you can agree or disagree with no negative hit to your friendship. 
• 6: Head to Sebastian’s room while he’s there: you’ll get to play a game with him. Choose a class, then go in through the front, defend yourself, enter the hallway to your left, destroy the capsules, and enter the boss battle. Your last choice depends on your class: if you’re a wizard, defend your friends while the wizard is mumbling, if you’re a healer then heal Sebastian, if you’re a warrior, block him.  
• 8: Head to the boardwalk when it’s raining between 12pm and 11pm to trigger a cutscene where Seb opens up a bit. 
• 10: Make your way to the mountain between 8pm and midnight. You’ll get to go on a ride with him to a place he really likes, and you can tell him he should quit smoking if you’d like to. He also confesses his feelings for you, which is nice. 
• 14: Go to the mountain between 6am and 7pm and you’ll get to have a long conversation about a frog. Start the second part of this event by going to your farmhouse between 6:20am and 7pm the next day. Now you have a terrarium with a frog and you can encourage him to create a frog sanctuary if you fancy.