Hi Sooz, I've just found this thread today and would like to add my views.
I can certainly understand your position. I have family commitments which have to take precedence over any game that I might be playing. That means that although I am frequently in game a lot of the time I cannot commit to a solid three hours continuous game time. It would certainly be very unfair to expect any raid that I might be in to wait around for five or ten minutes whilst I deal with a family drama. That is not the case for the great proportion of our members. They can comfortably arrange to be online and raiding from 7:00pm onwards, which I can't. So we are stuck in a kind of limbo, desperately wanting to raid but not having the flexibility regarding our time to fit in with everyone else.
The real problem then arises for those of us who are not "time rich". None of us have the same schedule so can't raid together. I can't commit to three hours solid game time until after 10:30pm, Sunday to Thursday. So that doesn't help you as I can't make your schedule, and it doesn't help me as you can't make mine. Hopefully you get my point. The original Late Night Raid team suited me down to the ground, but since the main raid moved to Friday that is now beyond me too.
I can offer two solutions for you:
1) You can try to organise your time so that once or twice a week you create "me time" to allow you to join an organised raid and when the family understands that you are not going to want to be disturbed. That needs a cooperative partner, something I don't have as my "me time" is Friday evening in the pub
2) You try and find 9 others who want to raid at the same time as you. If you look at Antonius' Census
you will notice that we have 631 characters spread over two guilds. A good proportion of those are level 80 (another project for Antonius perhaps - ordering membership by level). If you look at the threads for the three main progression teams they are restricting membership to about 25 to 30 regulars. That takes care of only 90 characters or so. Therefore there will be a lot of people with main characters or major alts that are looking for a raid to join. Why not make it your raid team they want to join up to
With the new content coming in Cata everyone starts from new. Even those with ICC25 gear now will be in the same position. So now is the time to plan a new raid team for the time that suits you. Akee's post is the best place to start if that's what you decide to do. If you want any help let me know.